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19 September 2009 @ 07:59 pm
funeral  
today i attended my uncle's funeral. he died of cancer early wednesday morning. he had been diagnosed about 6 weeks ago. it was VERY fast.

my paternal grandparents were the first members of the church in this county, and they raised all their kids in the church. of those six children (five theirs and then a neice's son who they basically adopted) only two remain active in the church. those two families have raised their children in the church and most of those children are active. i think there's one in each family who doesn't attend.

and while it was a beautiful service, i kept thinking, how depressing this is. the reverend who spoke, spoke about the resurrection only in passing. he spoke one the moment that we would be reunited with neil only if we walked in faith, and he thought neil was worth getting to know so you better be good and come to Christ.

he had a different version of the bible, a newer version with different words. not the king james version. he read things from it, and i found myself thinking, that's not what that says, or that's not what that means...

and while the whole room was in tears because we're going to miss our uncle/brother/father/neighbor/grandfather/friend.... it was no help to have a reverend speaking who gave no comfort as to what happens after we die, who spoke about the resurrection almost as if it were mythological. according to legend so to speak.

i found myself feeling so bad for those around me who didn't know the gospel. who didn't know what was going to happen, where he had gone, that yes, indeed you will see him again. it's not some according to legend thing. you will see him.
i found myself being so grateful for the gospel, and for the ordinances of the temple that seal families together.
i can't imagine people being married for 35 years, and then that's it. what a cruel and sadistic joke to play on mankind. to not allow the relationship to continue, to not allow the fatherhood to continue... to continue that familial relationship. There must be more to life than just life and then death and then food for worms...

so my point in posting today is to just say how grateful i am for the gospel. to know really where we do go after we die, and what will happen. does this mean i am in any hurry to get on that long journey to the other side? no. but, it's like having travel brochures before you go on vacation. It's nice to read up on and understand the area you're going to be going to for a long while. Think of those who go on vacation with absolutely no idea where they are going or how they are going to get there or what will happen?

i'm just so glad that we have the gospel, that we have the plan of salvation, and we understand where and what happens.. it's still sad. but it's not the end.. it's merely a going away party...

(cross posted from my personal live journal.)
 
 
 
Mattmpj on September 20th, 2009 02:49 am (UTC)
it's merely a going away party...

I love that thought, and I find it so awesome.

But, you wouldn't believe the mess I get when I try to tell people about being able to see each other after death. They give me the strangest looks. I once had someone tell me while growing up(I grew up as a Southern Baptist in Louisiana, baptized into the true Church at 20) that we won't even recognize our loved ones when we see them in heaven. What a cruel thing to say, in my opinion.
woodnotewonderwoodnotewonder on September 21st, 2009 02:08 pm (UTC)
thank you..........
Kay McIntoshkaygreyhelm on September 24th, 2009 03:55 am (UTC)
Thanks for sharing this. I think here in MisfitMormon sometimes we focus so much on how alienated we feel because of the culture and not on the truth of the doctrine. This was much appreciated.