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03 December 2013 @ 05:04 pm
Calling Releases  
So, do you all think it's appropriate to ask someone why they were released from a calling?

I guess I just place such a high value on my own privacy, especially in spiritual matters, that it would NEVER cross my mind to ask someone why they were released.

Only a couple months ago, I was called as the RS chorister. A couple weeks ago, I asked to be released due to personal worthiness. So, I was released on Sunday, and the previous chorister asked me why. I was taken aback because I would never ask someone that question. Then last night at Mid-Single FHE, others asked!

I just don't know. I suppose I could be sensitive to private spiritual matters because I have spent the vast majority of my adult life not worthy for callings and sacrament, so not taking about those things is second nature to me. Maybe it isn't such a big deal for other people.

Thoughts?
 
 
 
lady_quadress: pic#120340849lady_quadress on December 4th, 2013 12:50 am (UTC)
My advice to you is when people ask why just play dumb and tell them you have no clue.

At my ward we have a lest 6 women who make it their business to be in everyone else business. So I've learned that if you want to keep something private the first thing to do is tell no one and then the second thing to do is to play dumb. Then give it a couple weeks and soon they will forget all about it. Trust me it works every time *HUGS*
Yawnk: Mesavannahjan on December 4th, 2013 02:14 am (UTC)
The first time I was asked, I was so surprised, that I sputtered, "I asked to be released."

But everyone else after that got dodging and cluelessness. :)

I guess I just think it's rude to ask those kinds of questions.
HailerStar: Native Spirithailerro on December 4th, 2013 12:58 am (UTC)
I think it is sort of rude that they asked you. Normally if someone tells me they got released from a calling, you say 'ok' and move on to the next topic of discussion. (Granted, they could ask if you liked the calling, if you miss it, etc. but I don't think it's appropriate to ask WHY someone was released).

Yawnk: Mesavannahjan on December 4th, 2013 02:12 am (UTC)
Thank you. I was starting to feel crazy. I wasn't all that surprised when the little old lady former chorister asked. But then many other people asked, and I just was bothered. Because I would never ask that. I think sometimes people only think the temple is sacred. But church attendance and callings are just as sacred in my opinion.
HailerStar: Native Spirithailerro on December 5th, 2013 12:24 am (UTC)
Nope. You're not crazy. People are just ... rude/intrusive. I guess they don't always think about what they're asking, either. My mom had a calling, years ago, in primary, with like the six and seven year olds. She did her calling for about eight months and then asked to be released. Some of the kids were just really rowdy and it got to the point where she couldn't handle it anymore.

I guess, I find it odd anyone WOULD ask why you were released. I've always assumed that when someone says they were released that the Bishop called them in and thanked them for their service and the job was handed over to whoever the Lord wanted to have it next. Either that scenario or that other things necessitated the release; health, family situations, work, moving, stress, etc. Given that everything falls under one of those two scenarios I don't think it ever crossed my mind to ask someone why they were released.

I agree with you, as well, that callings are sacred. What you learn from them contributes to your personal growth (and that includes realizing when it's time to let the calling go or step down).

And just as I was typing this it occurred to me that 'why did you get released' is most likely a question that would be asked by an extroverted personality. (I'm rather an introvert but I have several Sister-in-laws who are extroverts and I get the feeling that what they think of as 'being social', I tend to think of as 'being nosy'.)