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22 July 2009 @ 05:33 am
church help?  
im about to ask for help from my bishop.

its not the first time.

he once went over my budget and couldnt understand why i wasnt able to pay my electrick bill and thought something wasnt on the up and up.

it was poor budgeting. this time its from a layoff.

but to be totally honest there are so many other ways i could have cut corners. i was in the wrong. even though i am frugal, spending on cheap things does add up.

should i just say that exactly?

***a little info, im active off and on. havent tithed in a long time. my spouse is Not a member. i dont want it to seem like i treat the church like my ATM.
joepuentejoepuente on July 22nd, 2009 06:21 pm (UTC)
Honesty is the best route to go. There's been plenty a missionary or soldier over seas who went broke saving money on all kinds of cheap consumer items. Hard to resist those deals, I know! :-)

If there's one thing I have a strong testimony about, it's tithing. I think that would be a good place to start if you want to be more active and all sorts of blessings come with it, believe you me. :-)

I'm not sure if tithing is required if you're on unemployment, I know it isn't if you're on welfare. I was on welfare for a while and I paid tithing on it anyway. I didn't want to get in the habit of not thinking about it.

If you're totally up front with your Bishop, are sincere in your needs and your desire to do right, things will work out for you.
Katkat on July 22nd, 2009 09:45 pm (UTC)
Thank you for your advice. i will tell him I was wrong and I'm sorry and that is the truth. Thank you for your suppoert.
dustydistaff on July 22nd, 2009 06:21 pm (UTC)
Honestly, there are so many ways all of us can cut corners, it doesn't mean you're a bad person for going broke. But yeah, just say all of this (everything you just wrote) to your bishop--the part about getting laid off, the part about not wanting to treat the church as an ATM, the part about trying to be frugal and still running out of money. Even discuss the tithing part and your spouse not being a member (which I'm guessing is a factor in the tithing issue).
It sounds like you're sincerely trying to do the best you can with what you've got, and if you just put it all out there your bishop will probably see that.
Katkat on July 22nd, 2009 09:44 pm (UTC)
My spouse has agrees to start tithing. I firmly believe in it. Even if it was a choices between an necessity and my tithing I would want to tithe, but it has been helpful now that my spouse is on board.
the end has no endwe_like_you on July 22nd, 2009 10:01 pm (UTC)
That's great -- for a while my spouse was not on board with the tithing thing and when he finally did get on board I was so happy. He's a member but was having a trial of faith at that time.
dustydistaff on July 22nd, 2009 10:12 pm (UTC)
That's great. :) Some spouses have a hard time with tithing, so that's great that you're both on the same page about it.